How to Develop a Successful Dating Life (Part I)Dear Reader,
I mentioned this during the workshop but I am going to say it once more on my site. 2011 is going to be a big, big year for the Maverick Man Singapore. I made an unwavering commitment towards their success. I spent the past few off days between the Private Instruction programs planning monthly Specialized Workshops for them all the way until November 2011. I am going all out for the Alumni Support system and holding nothing back. If there was ever a BEST time to be a part of The Maverick Man, then more than ever, NOW would be the time.
From December 2010, I have been developing and refining a new concept which I came up with when it came to Identity Development. Think about it. It really isn’t what you do or say, neither is it your game or your funky techniques that will get you the girl. A Woman likes you not for what you do, but for WHO YOU ARE.
The focus for the next 4 months with the Maverick Man will be on on Identity Development. With that in mind, I came up with a 3-part concept on How to Develop a Successful Dating Life. This is going to be a 3-part series so without further ado, here is Part I of my article!
How to Develop a Successful Dating Life (Part I)
When I first started learning how to become better with Women, I was obsessed about methods. I was always crazy about learning the best techniques and tricks that could help me make it easier to meet Women. One of the areas which I focused a lot of time and energy on (unfortunately) was Approaching Women. Thanks to the Maverick Man system, I was able to realize how to effectively solve this problem in the space of a few minutes. In fact, by applying the same concept to other aspects of my dating life, I managed to internalize all the important lessons, from the basics of vibe and visual presentation, all the way to sexual escalation and Dance game. This made me literally a truly attractive Man who just magnetized people towards me.
How did I manage to do this? By being a Big-Picture person. I realized that I (like most people) was being very narrow-minded in my approach towards mastering my dating life. I placed so much emphasis on learning how to meet Women that I failed to see that the most important factor for being good with Women is Leading. To be a good leader of Women, a Man simply needs 2 things :
1) A Game Plan
2) Leadership Ability (confidence, conveyance)
But, my focus for this post is not on leading. That is something that we train our clients to master on our Private Instruction programs. The purpose of this series of posts is for me to give you guys the REAL big-picture when it comes to developing a successful dating life for yourself. I believe that like with all things in life, it is important to CLEARLY understand the reality of a situation before you start to develop a strategy to master that particular aspect of your life. This is me giving you a CLEAR UNDERSTANDING of the reality of the dynamics between Men and Women.The 3 Aspects of A Successful Dating Life
There are 3 key aspects that must work in perfect synergy in order for a Man to have a truly successful dating life. In this post, I am going to talk about the very first one.
Aspect #1 : Reach
Your Reach in a dating context is defined by your ability to meet Women. It is not just a simple matter of having good Game and technically good social skills. Reach is much more than that. Reach can be broken down into 3 parts :
1) Your Lifestyle Dimensions
I believe that your Lifestyle Dimensions would be the most important thing to consider when it comes to meeting Women. The truth is, all the skills in the world would be useless if your lifestyle does not allow you avenues to apply your Game. So take a look at your lifestyle dimensions today and consider how effective they are in allowing you to meet Women. If all you do is stay at home from Monday to Sunday, unless you do online game, or your neighbour’s a pimp, it’s pretty impossible to meet Women with such a lifestyle. Even if you are proficient at meeting Women online, chances are that your lack of worldly experiences would make it hard to attract and keep a Woman’s attention.
One of the most common problems with Asian men is that their lifestyles are not Female-Centric. What this means is that while they may actually have a lifestyle, it really isn't one that appeals to Women and therefore, results in a very small chance of these Men being able to meet Women. If you work from Mondays to Fridays, and all you do on the weekends is play LAN games and kick it over a few beers with your homies at the sports bar, chances are slim that you are actually going to meet new, attractive Women. Female-Centric activities are activities that appeal to Women. Examples of such activities would be clubbing, desserts, hitting cafes/pubs, dance/language classes and erm... Cosplay events?!
A really effective way to tweak your lifestyle dimensions to allow for more Women to enter you life is to allow at least 1 evening a week for a Female-Centric activity. If you know some friends who have many female friends (like your Wingwomen), have them invite those female friends out for a night of Karaoke or even kite-flying! Yes, you can go grab a medi-pedi if that’s your thang, but I would suggest clubbing or just finding a regular spot with lots of female traffic and become a regular there. Of course, if you would like to know how to become an ACE at meeting Women and dating them, you can always talk to me about Private Instruction
2) Your Game
Your Game refers to your technical ability to meet Women. Tweaking your lifestyle to become more Female-Centric is a piece of cake, but being able to become a Man who is able to meet and attract Women who want to stick around in your life can be quite a challenge. This is why dating coaches like myself exist. In the Game stages of your Reach, the focus is on you being :
- Being attractive enough to Women so that they would want to meet you
- Being confident and skilled enough to meet a Woman while engaging in your Lifestyle Activities.
Most people think that being an ACE at approaching and picking-up Women is the key to having a successful dating life. They CANNOT be further from the Truth. Real Ladies’ Men will tell you that it’s not how many Women you know, it’s how many are proud and happy to have known you.
To be completely honest, learning to approach Women is really simple. If you can eat a sandwich, you can approach a Woman effectively. I am serious. It’s been proven over and over again to my ever-growing community of Alumni and enthusiasts. Think about it for a second. Approaching is just saying “Hey!”. If you have problems with that, learning how to approach is NOT GOING TO SOLVE IT. It’s going to get you approaching, but it will not eradicate the problem from your life. You will need to hone the RIGHT BELIEFS in order to do so.
The focus should be on your CONVERSION, which I will write about in Part II
3) Your Reputation
Like it or not, people are going to have an impression of you. Hell, if you can have an impression of someone, why can’t they have one of you?
The beautiful thing about being a ladies’ man or the 24/7 Attractive Man is that you start to gain a reputation for being one.
We all convey certain attributes to people we meet everyday, even if they so much as glanced at us for a second. If you present yourself in a certain way in a CONSISTENT manner, you are going to develop a reputation. Some people are consistently forgettable. Some people are consistently avoided. Some people are consistently wanted by everyone in their life. Having a bad reputation ain’t a bad thing… it’s so much easier to impress people when they assume you’re a scoundrel. How else do you think a guy like me can write a blog like this and STILL have Women (more) in my life? You can bet it isn’t because of my remarkable Playstation skills...
People are naturally attracted to people with a reputation. When you hear a lot about someone before you meet them, you would anticipate the first time you actually meet up. You will want to see for yourself if the opinion you formed in your head about this person is spot on or not. This is especially so if it is an attractive member of the opposite sex. It’s just like if you met Mark Zuckerburg of Facebook on the street. If you didn’t know who he was, you’d probably treat him like you treat any other stranger. But if you knew who he was before meeting him and finally met him, you’d be pretty awestruck. In fact, if you knew he was going to show up somewhere around your area, you are going to go out of your way to "run into him".
Having a reputation inspires people to REACH OUT to you. Such is the power of a Reputation.
Alright folks, I am going to reveal the next 2 aspects of a Successful Dating Life in my next post so stay tuned for that! I would also expect to have updates on my upcoming story with AFP by the next update so until then, have a powerful week ahead!
Live and Love,
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