DO NOT Confess Your Love To A Woman! Unless... (Part I)

September 27, 2011 Posted by Xavier in Maverick Man

DO NOT Confess Your Love To A Woman! Unless... (Part I)

I found myself thinking a lot about one common issue that many Men who are looking for a successful dating life brought up. It was an issue that I found myself in SO MANY TIMES and never had a solution to. I really wish someone would go all Dating Coach on me and give me the solution to that problem and save me all that humiliation and heartache. I am glad I figured it out already and I am excited to be sharing this with all you Maverick Men today.

The story always begins the same way :

"... So I confessed my feelings for her... and she told me :

1) you're a nice guy and I really like you... but as a friend...

2) I am not ready for a relationship... (she forgot to add a "with you" cos she would be with THAT other guy)

3) she told me she is not ready yet and told me to wait... so I'm still waiting... she will be ready soon... (sorry bro, she will never be as long as there are REAL MEN around)

All this actually means is that you just got :

Look, at the end of the day, the obvious lesson is this : "Confessions of Love" are really not a good idea... if you don't have your MACRO PERSPECTIVE in place.

As a young, born-and-bred Singaporean man, I would safely say that it is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to not experience this problem. If you are facing this problem right now, or have faced it before and want to be rid of it forever, this article is for you.

What on earth is Macro Perspective?

Macro perspective refers to your understanding, awareness of a situation and your chosen perspective on the matter.

I want you readers to always remember this Maverick Man : GOLD CLASS lesson that I always emphasize :

"Seduction thrives on a little bit of uncertainty. A Woman doesn't have to know exactly what your plan is, she just needs to FEEL that you know what you are doing so she can trust you to lead her."

I am going to prove this theory to you right now.

So you've read about the common consequences of confessing your love. Now I want to welcome you to the other side that the Maverick Man is accustomed to.

I remember my good friend and Alumni TheMessenger who was talking to a girl he met in the day time. They had an awesome interaction which lead to many discussions about their next meeting. One part of the conversation went like this :

Girl : "Haha this sounds like a date!"

XB : "It's you and me goin' out and having the best time we can have."

Girl : "So... it's a date?"

XB : "Nope, you and me, best times."

Girl : "So is it a date?!"

XB : -shrugs- + -smirks-

After they slept together on the first night out, she confessed to him that she was going gaga over what was going to happen. She was discussing with her friends about every ambiguous thing he said. They even tried to analyze how interested in her he was. There was so much to discuss because he simply never verbally made certain about anything. He would say one thing like :

XB : "Yea... just coffee will do... I'm sure." -smirks-

And the girls will go Gaga over the discussion, spending hours trying to figure him out!

The Reason For This?

The reason this happens is because, like I mentioned earlier :

Confessing your Love for a Woman prematurely will result in heartache FOR SURE. Think about it for a second : If you were a Woman, how would you want to be seduced? Would you like a man who goes :

"Hey, can I be your friend?"

"Hi, can I be your boyfriend?"

"Hi, can I hold your hand?"

"Hi, can I kiss you?"

Waiting for a girl to give you PERMISSION is weak! TAKE CHARGE!

Obviously not, right? Asking for permission to escalate is weak. Though you may not feel it, this weakness tells a Woman that:

1) You don't have balls.

2) She isn't seductive enough for you to lose your restraint for.

Damn it, I was guilty of that shit for a good 20 years haha. I was a cool cat, funny and charismatic but I was terrible with Women simply because I was such a weakling with them. I was always careful and asking all these stupid questions. Naturally, this stupidity lead me to plan grand confessions of love that ended up in me falling flat on my face.

Understand that a Woman wants 3 things from a Man :

1) Trust - she must be able to trust him

2) Fun - she must enjoy his company

3) Intimacy - she must feel seduced AND seductive around him

So begs the question : How can I move along and escalate without making it entirely certain?

Answers coming up in Part II