Foundations

Alright folks,

Without further ado, here is the final installment of our 3 part series on How To Develop A Successful Dating Life.

How To Develop A Successful Dating Life (Part III)

After tapping on your reach and converting the Women that you meet into dates, you want to be able to sustain a healthy relationship where both of you are passionate and involved in wanting to give each other an awesome experience each time. This final piece of the puzzle is an often overlooked one. I say this not just from my 3 years of coaching experience but also because I was lead into believing that being able to approach or meet Women is really the coolest thing about The Game. Obviously, I was very wrong because...

There is no point in having 1000 phone numbers when NONE of the girls even want to see you again!

Alright, So How Do I Make Sure Women Want To See Me Again?

They key to making Women want to see you again is to give them a reason to want to see you again. In order for you to do that, you must have a LIFESTYLE that a Woman can fit into comfortably and would enjoy. Only then will you achieve Retention.

Retention

Retention refers to your ability to keep a Woman’s attention focused on you for an extended period of time.

Where this is where most systems fail, this is truly where Maverick Man shines.

At Maverick Man Private Instruction programs, we start things off with a comprehensive Pre-Program Package to help us get to you know better. A fundamental phase of this process is us getting to understand your lifestyle. Fact : Having an awesome lifestyle automatically makes you an awesome person to be around. A person with an awesome lifestyle is naturally in a good position to add more depth to his personality through earning more life experience in professional and social situations.

Before I took a program with my mentor, I lead a pretty mundane life. I loved staying at home and sleeping, occasionally waking up just to watch programs on the computer and just eating whatever food there was in the house. After my class with my mentor, I became more aware of how life is actually pretty damn short. I wasn’t going to get any younger and there was much of the world that I wanted to see. That set me off on an amazing journey where I traveled around the world extensively. In the space of 2 years, I visited Russia, Spain, Italy, France, Portugal, Hawaii and almost all of Asia. These experiences allowed me to gain a strong appreciation for foreign cultures and develop unique personal tastes, which added depth to my personality. This helped me develop dimensions to my personality that intrigued and interested Women, allowing me to charm them just by telling them about myself.

Maverick Man Glen: The Prince of the Clubs

The Maverick Man is powered by an attractive lifestyle. You can fake a lot of things, from confident body language to the stories you tell, but there is no way you can fake an entire lifestyle. I’ll give you readers a RARE glimpse of the kind of events that we have at least once a month for our Alumni. This was us organizing a celebrity-themed party for that night for the entire public to see this coming Friday. It was termed as "The Operation".

Building a universally Attractive Lifestyle for yourself is not difficult but it requires effort on your part. How hungry are you for your chance to live your dream life? Most people fall into the general category where 98% of people in the world fall into. They just keep their eyes peeled for opportunities to come along. They leave their lifestyle choices to chance. I actually knew of this guy who wanted to invite me to a “VIP” party. I appreciate the thought but seriously, a “VIP” party on Facebook, with a guestlist of 9000+ people?! Very important indeed haha... The sad thing is, that was really one of the biggest highlights of his year.

The fact is that you must be willing to work hard towards creating that awesome lifestyle for yourself. If you are serious about doing so, then the first step is really to define what an attractive lifestyle is to you.

Defining An Attractive Lifestyle

When I started crafting my dream lifestyle, I chose to focus on 3 lifestyle dimensions which would allow me to live that dream lifestyle.

1) I wanted to be engaging in activities which I found cool and enjoyable.

One example that illustrates my point would be my early days of clubbing. I made it a point to stay in touch with the cool people who I met in the clubs. I talked about how we should party up again together and after that it was all just a matter of logistics. The people who I choose to party withwere people who enabled me to enjoy myself to the fullest. This meant only fun people OR people who were well-connected or possessed both qualities. You might think that such people are hard to come by but believe me, it’s a lot easier to know such people than you think it is. Slowly, these people progressed on to becoming post-clubbing breakfast club buddies, online music-sharing buddies and even occasional coffee/golf buddies.

2) I wanted to have the right Entourage of friends to party and enjoy life with.

I wanted to find Men and Women who liked the things that I liked. The best way for me to do that was to hang out in spots which I personally would frequent. Sure enough, even up till today, some of my best friends are people who I’ve met in clubs or while playing soccer (my favorite past-time). When people are enjoying each others’ company, they are bound to talk about future plans together (foreshadowing). All it takes is a little bit more effort on your part to follow up with plans you guys make and after 2-3 solid outings together, you would start to develop a good bond. I would begin organizing supper sessions at my personal favorite spots and invite them there and the next time we hung out, my new friends would take the lead. Every time I bring a date out on one of the Entourage’s outing sessions, it’s pretty much Game Set because she sees how I am surrounded by awesome people like myself, people who she would also like to be around.

3) I wanted solid date ideas for the Women I took out on dates.

I am the kind of guy who appreciates sweeping settings. My dates mostly take place along a river, by the beach or a rooftop bar/lounge. I identified my favorite spots and went to those places on off-days. This allowed for more attention to be focused on me and before I knew it, I became well-established in all my favorite spots from clubs all the way to cafes. This allowed me to gain extra privileges, like free entry, VIP treatment, discounts and the works. Organizing an amazing date was only a phone call away and this made dating a highly pleasurable affair with very minimal effort. One example would be me dining at my favorite Thai restaurant in Dhoby Ghaut. Every time I bring my dates there for AWESOME Thai food, we would be treated royally by the staff and the boss, who takes her time to personally prepare my dishes for me. This really brings about a great vibe to the date, which makes success somewhat of an after-thought.

Why Go Through All The Trouble?

I always believe that it is work if you don’t enjoy it. By developing the lifestyle that I TRULY wanted, I was going out to places I love, hanging out with people I enjoy hanging out with and doing awesome things which I enjoy. Today, I am constantly in the process of improving and maintaining my lifestyle, looking for new, exciting things to try out. It truly doesn’t feel like work at all... in fact I cannot wait for the activities that we have planned for the week!

All this effort you put in yourself is going to empower you with the ULTIMATE feeling : Genuine, unshakable belief that you have a life you are proud of and a life she will love. If there was really one thing that will SKYROCKET your dating life, it is being empowered with this feeling. You will see your confidence soar to unbelievable levels and you will be able to not just retain, but CAPTIVATE any Woman who comes into yourself because she will want to know so much more about you.

The Maverick Man Alumni Crew in Singapore lives and breathes an attractive lifestyle. If you haven’t already checked out the privileges of being an esteemed member of the Alumni Crew is like, just scroll of the bottom of this page. After graduation from a live program, our Alumni Establishment is there at your disposal and virtually guarantees a fun and exciting life for you.

Alright folks, I hope you enjoyed Part III of the How To Develop A Successful Dating Life series. Stay tuned to this site for a video blog update coming up this week, where I will tell you about our upcoming 8-episode video series that is unlike anything any date coaching company has ever seen in Asia. You heard it here first! Until then, have a rockin' week ahead!

Live and Love,

Xavier

xavier@maverick-movement.com

http://alife2love.com

Skype : xavierrrr

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Conversion

Conversion is simply the ability to lead a relationship towards your desired outcome.

In How To Develop A Successful Dating Life (Part I), I wrote about how establishing an effective means of Reach enables you to have many avenues on hand to meet Women. I would like to say a big thank you to everyone who wrote in and the overwhelming interest for that post, I hope I successfully answered all the questions you guys had!

Now that you have reliable avenues to meet Women, how am I going to go about meeting them? How am I going to go about converting them into friends, lovers or allies? This is where the all-important aspect of LEADERSHIP comes in.

Before I go on, I would like you to understand something very important. The truth is, people don’t know what they want. This means that what people want changes all the time. It’s very easy to persuade people if you knew how to push their buttons. Let’s try this very simple experiment to prove my point:

Imagine right now, I want to give you a million dollars, no questions asked. All you have to do is accept it. Would you like a million dollars?

Yes, of course you would. If you wouldn't, please get in touch with me so that I can relieve you of all your financial "burdens" of dollar bills and coins.

Ah, now I have 10 million dollars. I want to give it to you as well, no questions asked. Same thing, all you have to do is accept. Would you like 10 million dollars?

What we want changes all the time. We are naturally inclined to go with the choice which excites or satisfies us the most. It’s not a bad thing, it’s just human nature. Women are no different. Women don’t know what they want. This is not to say that they are stupid or anything like that. What I mean by that is that What Women want changes from time to time as well, just like everyone else! This is why trying to read all the millions of signals that Women give you, or trying to learn the billions of lines and techniques out there is going to burn you out. But fret not for I have a golden solution to this issue...

Leadership : The Maverick Man Way

Maverick Man Alumni are taught that “You will lead until the day you die.” I find this to be true. Some people will find the task of leading to be a burden. I choose to look at it as a privilege. I believe that there is no one who is more concerned and capable of my own well-being than myself. I like that I am in control of my own life. I like that I am responsible for the success that I will enjoy because no one else will be more generous to myself than… well, myself!

In order to lead effectively, you are going to need TWO things:

1) A Game Plan (I have written a post about how to craft an excellent game plan, read it here, e-mail me for the password)

2) Quality Leadership Ability

Yes, it’s not about giving a Woman what she wants... this is because what Women want changes all the time! At Maverick Man, it’s about understanding who your identity and being confident that it is something that a Woman would appreciate.

Adding some Maverick Man magic into your Identity is all about developing your Identity to be in line with The 5 Attributes, which will result in you becoming irresistible to Women!

Fact : So long as a Woman likes the way you look and the vibe you give off, she is not going to brush you off.

The thing that you have to focus on is how you are going to lead the interaction once she is receptive to you.

(My apologies for the flurry of colors but I need you readers to understand all the points which I colored, they are very key fundamentals!)

Being able to CONVERT a Woman into a friend/lover/ally is all about knowing YOUR Game Plan for doing so and using your Leadership ability to make that happen. The manner in which you lead has to be UNSHAKABLE, which means that the belief that you have within yourself has to be unwavering and you have to believe that whatever you have in mind for your Woman and you, both of you are going to appreciate it.

I am going to share and breakdown one of the latest client success stories from The Singapore Crew :

“Hey guys, it’s Eddy here.

So it was another one of those EPIC nights out with the crew. We were at the club doing our thing once again, catching up over a few drinks and basically having a ball of the time as we talked about the adventures we all enjoyed during the week.

The thing about the Singapore Crew is that we just radiate this amazing vibe when we are out. It’s the vibe of a bunch of cool guys who are out to have the best night ever. As the Crew Commander Xavier always says, “You guys are the coolest guys in this club. If the Women don’t want you, WHO ELSE could they want?!” We can always count on Xav to be there to put things in perspective haha...

A group of 4 girls were standing in front of our spot. I deployed some basic Line-Of-Sight Tactics and noticed that every time I made an overt glance in their direction, one of the girls in blue would always smile/flip her hair. This was a clear sign that she would welcome my presence, so I naturally made my way over and started a conversation with one of Xav’s trademark openers.

“Hey!” I said, with a beaming smile on my face (Xav: that really is all there is to it… you don’t need to be FANTASTIC when you have a game plan, you just need to do JUST ENOUGH)

The girls all turned to look at me and greet me. I noticed the girl in blue who I set my sights on flipped her hair as she greeted me. Game on, I thought to myself.

"Are you girls okay with compliments?" I asked.

All of them smiled and said Yes.

"Great, so give me one already!" I shouted with an exaggerated look of frustration and amusement on my face.

The girls immediately burst out laughing, and the girl in blue said, "Okay, you are very humble, Mister." (Game on or what? Hahaha…)

"I'm glad you noticed, my dear..." I said in an overly-cool manner. We all burst out laughing after that.

I then introduced myself to the rest of the group and found out that the girl in blue was called Laura. I invited them to my table where my wingmen were stationed as they dispersed the group and keep them entertained while I talked to Laura. I did a Proximity Lead (Xav: moving a girl from one position to another physically) and found myself in isolation with Laura. I took advantage of the loud music to move closer to her, keeping my movement to a minimum and my conversation light and fun, while my eye-contact and non-verbals communicated intimacy. (Xav: Known as the Yin-Yang Effect)

After speaking for 10 minutes, I took her back to the table where we shared another drink. "Let’s grab a warm-up drink before hitting the dancefloor." I foreshadowed. I took her by the hand and lead her in that manner from there all the way to the dancefloor. I noticed her friends within the area so I took her back to them as my wingmen and Laura’s friends started dancing together. We had Alumni Jack shuffling like he was on a music video which really hyped up the crowd. After having a good time with the crew and Laura’s friends, I knew I had already won over Laura’s friends. I then proceeded to take Laura by the hand and into another spot where it was just the both of us. I proceeded to do some basic Dancegame which Crew Sergeant Jordon taught me and Laura was really loving it. During this period of isolation, I escalated in a seductive manner, adjusting my Dancegame according to my Game Plan, playing a natural, physical push-pull. Within 3 minutes, we were making-out on the dance floor. After about 3 songs, we headed back to the table and started chatting again, rotating between holding hands, drinking and exchanging kisses. The night was going smoothly. I excused myself and went to the toilet and motioned for Captain Laveen to come with me as we explored my options for that night.

As far as I knew from Laveen, my girl was responsible for sending all of them home. I had the option of hitching a ride with her… or I could fight another day. From my experience, if I followed up closely within the next 3 days, this would be a done deal. I decided to do a solid follow-up so when I came back, I continued dancing with her and sharing a few drinks with her until it was time for me to leave with the crew. I thanked her for being the best company I could ask for all night and told her I’d love to see her on Tuesday for coffee. She agreed and I took her number.

Sure enough, when we met last Tuesday evening… let’s just say coffee wasn’t the only thing we shared

- Eddy

As you can tell, Eddy seemed to know exactly what to do at every point of time. Eddy is a graduate of the Private Instruction program only about a month ago and his skills have already risen to a remarkable level. Effective Game-Planning is the key to knowing what to do at every point of time. When you are backed by a Game Plan that, through experience, proves to be consistently successful, your Unshakable Leadership abilities are going to increase you will be able to achieve success easily.

In order to achieve consistent success in Conversion the Women you meet into potential lovers, you will need an effective Game Plan and Good Leadership Ability to be able to make that happen consistently. These are concepts which we cover in full-detail in our Private Instruction programs.

AND EXCLUSIVELY FOR SINGAPORE PRIVATE INSTRUCTION CLIENTS…

Maverick Man Singapore Crew

After 3 full days of intensive training, you will be inducted into the very active Maverick Man Alumni Community, where your mentorship and support group will be there with you for AS LONG AS YOU WANT. That is a lifetime of mentorship, which pretty much GUARANTEES your success with Women.

Imagine, the support of REAL, EXPERIENCED mentors on hand to provide you with the mentorship and training you need to realize that dream dating life which you have always wanted. The choice for a better life is entirely yours. Talk to me today about Private Instruction if you want that life for yourself.

Alright folks, Part III of this article will be coming up some time next week. I will be talking about the final component towards building a successful dating life so be sure to tune in again next week for my next entry! Until then, have a powerful, powerful week ahead!

Live and Love,

Xavier

xavier@maverick-movement.com

http://alife2love.com/

Skype : xavierrrr

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I mentioned this during the workshop but I am going to say it once more on my site. 2011 is going to be a big, big year for the Maverick Man Singapore. I made an unwavering commitment towards their success. I spent the past few off days between the Private Instruction programs planning monthly Specialized Workshops for them all the way until November 2011. I am going all out for the Alumni Support system and holding nothing back. If there was ever a BEST time to be a part of The Maverick Man, then more than ever, NOW would be the time.

From December 2010, I have been developing and refining a new concept which I came up with when it came to Identity Development. Think about it. It really isn’t what you do or say, neither is it your game or your funky techniques that will get you the girl. A Woman likes you not for what you do, but for WHO YOU ARE.

The focus for the next 4 months with the Maverick Man will be on on Identity Development. With that in mind, I came up with a 3-part concept on How to Develop a Successful Dating Life. This is going to be a 3-part series so without further ado, here is Part I of my article!

How to Develop a Successful Dating Life (Part I)

When I first started learning how to become better with Women, I was obsessed about methods. I was always crazy about learning the best techniques and tricks that could help me make it easier to meet Women. One of the areas which I focused a lot of time and energy on (unfortunately) was Approaching Women. Thanks to the Maverick Man system, I was able to realize how to effectively solve this problem in the space of a few minutes. In fact, by applying the same concept to other aspects of my dating life, I managed to internalize all the important lessons, from the basics of vibe and visual presentation, all the way to sexual escalation and Dance game. This made me literally a truly attractive Man who just magnetized people towards me.

How did I manage to do this? By being a Big-Picture person. I realized that I (like most people) was being very narrow-minded in my approach towards mastering my dating life. I placed so much emphasis on learning how to meet Women that I failed to see that the most important factor for being good with Women is Leading. To be a good leader of Women, a Man simply needs 2 things :

1) A Game Plan

2) Leadership Ability (confidence, conveyance)

But, my focus for this post is not on leading. That is something that we train our clients to master on our Private Instruction programs. The purpose of this series of posts is for me to give you guys the REAL big-picture when it comes to developing a successful dating life for yourself. I believe that like with all things in life, it is important to CLEARLY understand the reality of a situation before you start to develop a strategy to master that particular aspect of your life. This is me giving you a CLEAR UNDERSTANDING of the reality of the dynamics between Men and Women.

There are 3 key aspects that must work in perfect synergy in order for a Man to have a truly successful dating life. In this post, I am going to talk about the very first one.

Aspect #1 : Reach

Your Reach in a dating context is defined by your ability to meet Women. It is not just a simple matter of having good Game and technically good social skills. Reach is much more than that. Reach can be broken down into 3 parts :

1) Your Lifestyle Dimensions

I believe that your Lifestyle Dimensions would be the most important thing to consider when it comes to meeting Women. The truth is, all the skills in the world would be useless if your lifestyle does not allow you avenues to apply your Game. So take a look at your lifestyle dimensions today and consider how effective they are in allowing you to meet Women. If all you do is stay at home from Monday to Sunday, unless you do online game, or your neighbour’s a pimp, it’s pretty impossible to meet Women with such a lifestyle. Even if you are proficient at meeting Women online, chances are that your lack of worldly experiences would make it hard to attract and keep a Woman’s attention.

One of the most common problems with Asian men is that their lifestyles are not Female-Centric. What this means is that while they may actually have a lifestyle, it really isn't one that appeals to Women and therefore, results in a very small chance of these Men being able to meet Women. If you work from Mondays to Fridays, and all you do on the weekends is play LAN games and kick it over a few beers with your homies at the sports bar, chances are slim that you are actually going to meet new, attractive Women. Female-Centric activities are activities that appeal to Women. Examples of such activities would be clubbing, desserts, hitting cafes/pubs, dance/language classes and erm... Cosplay events?!

A really effective way to tweak your lifestyle dimensions to allow for more Women to enter you life is to allow at least 1 evening a week for a Female-Centric activity. If you know some friends who have many female friends (like your Wingwomen), have them invite those female friends out for a night of Karaoke or even kite-flying! Yes, you can go grab a medi-pedi if that’s your thang, but I would suggest clubbing or just finding a regular spot with lots of female traffic and become a regular there. Of course, if you would like to know how to become an ACE at meeting Women and dating them, you can always talk to me about Private Instruction

2) Your Game

Your Game refers to your technical ability to meet Women. Tweaking your lifestyle to become more Female-Centric is a piece of cake, but being able to become a Man who is able to meet and attract Women who want to stick around in your life can be quite a challenge. This is why dating coaches like myself exist. In the Game stages of your Reach, the focus is on you being :

- Being attractive enough to Women so that they would want to meet you

- Being confident and skilled enough to meet a Woman while engaging in your Lifestyle Activities.

Most people think that being an ACE at approaching and picking-up Women is the key to having a successful dating life. They CANNOT be further from the Truth. Real Ladies’ Men will tell you that it’s not how many Women you know, it’s how many are proud and happy to have known you.

To be completely honest, learning to approach Women is really simple. If you can eat a sandwich, you can approach a Woman effectively. I am serious. It’s been proven over and over again to my ever-growing community of Alumni and enthusiasts. Think about it for a second. Approaching is just saying “Hey!”. If you have problems with that, learning how to approach is NOT GOING TO SOLVE IT. It’s going to get you approaching, but it will not eradicate the problem from your life. You will need to hone the RIGHT BELIEFS in order to do so.

The focus should be on your CONVERSION, which I will write about in Part II

3) Your Reputation

Like it or not, people are going to have an impression of you. Hell, if you can have an impression of someone, why can’t they have one of you?

The beautiful thing about being a ladies’ man or the 24/7 Attractive Man is that you start to gain a reputation for being one.

We all convey certain attributes to people we meet everyday, even if they so much as glanced at us for a second. If you present yourself in a certain way in a CONSISTENT manner, you are going to develop a reputation. Some people are consistently forgettable. Some people are consistently avoided. Some people are consistently wanted by everyone in their life. Having a bad reputation ain’t a bad thing… it’s so much easier to impress people when they assume you’re a scoundrel. How else do you think a guy like me can write a blog like this and STILL have Women (more) in my life? You can bet it isn’t because of my remarkable Playstation skills...

People are naturally attracted to people with a reputation. When you hear a lot about someone before you meet them, you would anticipate the first time you actually meet up. You will want to see for yourself if the opinion you formed in your head about this person is spot on or not. This is especially so if it is an attractive member of the opposite sex. It’s just like if you met Mark Zuckerburg of Facebook on the street. If you didn’t know who he was, you’d probably treat him like you treat any other stranger. But if you knew who he was before meeting him and finally met him, you’d be pretty awestruck. In fact, if you knew he was going to show up somewhere around your area, you are going to go out of your way to "run into him".

Having a reputation inspires people to REACH OUT to you. Such is the power of a Reputation.

Alright folks, I am going to reveal the next 2 aspects of a Successful Dating Life in my next post so stay tuned for that! I would also expect to have updates on my upcoming story with AFP by the next update so until then, have a powerful week ahead!

Live and Love,

Xavier

xavier@maverick-movement.com

http://alife2love.com/

Skype : xavierrrr

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